Letting Go of Your Ego
As we become adults and take care of our lives, our egos can be a hindrance to our success.
The idea of “letting go of your ego” was something I came across years ago. It sounded appealing to me.
One of the focuses of my growth was to get rid of my ego. It is difficult to find someone who doesn’t love the joy of a child’s smile, innocence, and honesty.
It is liberating to watch them lose themselves in something that they love. It’s something I have found that many people avoid when they reach adulthood. I believe the main reason is to keep themselves safe from getting hurt; this is, in retrospect, more of a sign of weakness than strength.
You are likely to be familiar with the concept of “letting go of ego” if you engage in self-reflective practices such as meditation or yoga. That ego voice causes so much anxiety, worry, and suffering. It is possible to silence this voice, so it doesn’t have such an overwhelming effect on your life. Understanding your ego and the lessons it is trying to teach is the first step.
What is Ego?
The Greek and Latin words for “ego” are literally “I” or “Self,” but in a philosophical sense, it is called “self.”
Although ego can be a part of our personality positively or negatively, many people end up doing more harm than good by letting their ego take control.
Ego is what keeps you in your own world and away from the moment. Ego can have a very important function. It gets us excited and alerts us to the dangers around the corner. Nowadays, we don’t encounter such dangers as often. Ego now is most likely in industrious things, needs to feel important and employed; this is done by inducing fear, self-judgment, and judgment of others.
Steps to help you let go of your Ego and live life to the fullest.
1. Discover Your True Values
To let go of your ego, the first step is to discover what you value in your life. Do you value money? Do you value being liked by others?
People often take things too far and don’t see the larger picture. Let go of your ego if money is your most important value, and let it guide you to making sensible financial decisions.
Suppose love and relationships are the most important things to you. Stop putting yourself in situations that allow others to take advantage of your situation for their personal gain.
2. Recognize when you are most likely to be ego-driven
Ego-driven is when you allow your emotions to get hurt easily or you feel frustrated because things don’t go according to plan. When you feel like someone has insulted you or when it becomes difficult to control, it’s easy for your ego to take over.
You can recognize when your ego is at its most destructive and work on learning to let go of it while you can still maintain your self-esteem and protect it. Let go of what is holding you back.
3. Learn to forgive and let go.
“The weak cannot forgive; the attribute of the strong is forgiveness.” Mahatma Gandhi
- The best way to learn how to let go of your ego is to practice forgiveness to make your life easier. It is important to learn how to forgive those who have hurt you and also to forgive ourselves.
- Forgiveness can open up the doors to your soul and allow you to let go of the negative thoughts to make room for new joy.
4. Accept the fact that your ego does not have to be bad. It’s a part of who and what you are.
Even the most successful people can sometimes let their egos get in their way. There is hope for improvement if you can recognize when your ego gets in the way of your goals.
Let go of the ego that will only bring you down and stop you from moving forward.
“Too many people waste money they haven’t earned to buy things they don’t want to impress people they don’t like.” Will Smith
- One of the most important sentences I have ever heard; I’m sure it’s something you’ve also heard. “The truth will set you free.” Depression and anxiety can be caused by suppressing our emotions. Always seek the truth.
- Honesty allows us to connect with ourselves without pretending to be someone else, and of course, improving ourselves.
- You can learn to say no to things that don’t add value to your life and then open your arms to embrace the things that will.
6. Surrender your need for control.
- Let go of your fears and live in the moment. Do not be afraid to love. Take chances, explore.
Stop trying to control other people’s lives, if someone challenges you at work or school, don’t let your ego get the better of you. Don’t let your anger get out of control.
7. Consider how much energy and time you spend on your ego.
This is where you need to do some soul-searching.
It is worth asking yourself if your energy and focus on what others think of you can be better used for something productive, like pursuing a career or learning a new hobby.
Consider how much time you spend worrying about others and thinking negatively about yourself. This is energy that could be used to learn new skills that will help you in the future; let go of the ego that wastes your time.
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8. Imagine what could happen if your ego was released.
There are many benefits to letting go of the need for protection of your feelings which is tied to ego.
Let’s take, for example, an insult that someone has made to you. Instead of trying to get upset or prove them wrong, just let it go and let it roll off your shoulders.
You can let go of the need for everyone to think highly about you and focus on what’s most important in your life, such as meaningful work or quality time with loved ones.
“It is not happy people who are grateful; it’s thankful persons who are happy.”
- Every day, take 5 minutes to reflect on all the people, events, lessons, and mistakes you are grateful for.
- Grateful people feel more connected to others and have more joy than people who don’t.
Although it is easy to say that letting go of your ego can be easy, it can be difficult to do in the moment. Every time I think back to times when I was frustrated, I remember one thought that resonates within me: “Drop your ego!” There is nothing to lose, but there are many things you can do to make your life better.
10. You can let go of the need for perfection all the time.
Let go of the need for perfection. If you allow this part of your ego to get out of control, you will not be willing to admit that you are wrong.
Let go of the need to allow this to happen in your relationships. And let’s face the truth: not everyone will like you. Let go of the need for perfection and enjoy being happy!
If you are ready to let go of your ego and let your inner self be free, then learn how to let some things slip; this will improve your reputation and ensure that you don’t let just anyone bother you.
11. To be more in touch with others and yourself, practice mindfulness.
Mindfulness is the last step to letting go of your ego. You’ll discover that letting go can help you be more present in your life, leading to better relationships and a happier outlook.
You can let go of your ego and learn to let things slide if you are more mindful. This will improve every area of your life.
It matters what you think about yourself. Sometimes, what other people think and feel about you is important; whether or not we like it, our ego plays an important role in this process. Learning to let go will help you be true to yourself and add value to your life as well as the lives of others.